If yes, great! If not, never mind. Let’s have a tête-à-tête on this.
You: “Because I want to settle down.”
I: “That means, unless you get married, you aren’t settled but unstable?”
You: “No, not like that. My parents are aging and they want me to settle down.”
I: “Cool, so you should get married for your parents and their age and wishes?”
You: “No, no, you’re getting me wrong. Actually you need a partner to share your life with.”
I: “Fair enough. Can you be a bit specific on the sharing part?”
You: “Well, sharing your happiness and grief; smiles and tears; joys and frustrations… you know.”
I: “Yes, I do. But you can do so even with a good friend, who understands you like anything. No?”
You: “I can, but you know, there are more things to it. I mean you can’t share everything with your friend na!”
I: “Everything means? You mean sex?”
You: “Ah, well, yes! Not only that but also many things… you know.”
I: “No, if I had known, then of course I wouldn’t have asked you, right? However, for sex you can have many other ways, and frankly I couldn’t understand your many things.”
You: “Many things like having your own child(ren), getting someone for your old age…”
I: “Okay, but to have a child, you can also adopt an orphan and for your old age care, there are so many good old-age homes of late, so…”
You: “Oh ho, you’re not getting me. Marriage is necessary, and you’ve to understand that.”
I: “I’ve never said marriage is not necessary. All I wanted to know is why it’s necessary.”
You: “I don’t know. You please stop. And don’t forget, if your parents hadn’t been married then you were not born either.”
I: “I own your words. So, broadly speaking, marriage is an affair from which you expect your child(ren) and old-age security in addition to many other inexplicable things, which might add more to your confusion, right?”
You: “May be.”
I: “Not may be, IT IS.”
You: “Get LOST!”
I: “Sure, as you say.”
Now, I may have got lost. Still, has it helped you in any way?
Have you got the answer, why do you need to get married?
Don’t worry; I’m just as confused as you are. Or perhaps, I’m more confused than you are.
And in India, where arranged marriage always raves, it’s likely that this confusion will start from the very beginning. As an advertisement itself, which clamours off a matrimonial site everyday, or newspapers on Sundays.
See such an ad in the following, (click on it and get it enlarged) mark the red underlines and realise what I meant –
In this ad, I’ve deliberately hidden a few fields with grey patches. Because my idea has never been to insult or assault anyone’s sentiments but just to show how funny, trivial and frivolous a marriage could be in India… given over-protective parents, family members and relatives, who actually force a bride / groom to be a joker in public eyes.
In short, you’ve ONLY two choices. Get married to remain confused in your entire life. Or get rid of your confusions first, and always, to have a happy life: Married or unmarried.